Out @ The Club

Soooo.
I'm getting used to this blogging thing, a lot of ppl but some serious stuff out here but this is just fun for me... i am following Diggy (Simmons) and getting some interesting information and seeing some cool stuff even my BFF Amanda commented on my blog. (i love that girl, Chicago @ the end of the month here i come <3)

here are some pics of when me and my girls went out and this new video from Wale (Wa-Lay not like whale) and Lady GaGa that i heard its HOTT!!!! the left is some cat that was at the club, i wish you coulda seen the whole fit. my mom always says "you young kids are getting bamboozled these are the same styles from when i was younger and they charge you double for the clothes!" but i kinda want the lip ring?! what do you think?! on the right is Styles P. that came in for a mini performance! LOVED IT!

overall it was good day! just really ready for things to get moving in my life, but its all good for now I'm enjoying the relaxation...but i def gotta find time for all these friends i wanna go see!

Blog ya later! <3>

Baby Mama Drama/Dead Beat Dads

so i was having a conversation about the baby mama drama in the world and i was growing really concerned.my friend's "baby mama" posted some things on facebook about him, calling him a dead beat dad and talking about things that really didn't have any place for a facebook status. well come to find out from him she has another kid by another dad, and that he does help for his daughter (almost $500 a month! among other things) and she is mad because she lives off the money that he gives to support both of her children and her clubbing habits!

i have many friends (about 4) that i can think of off the top of my head, that have this same issue. really smart, funny, attractive, men who support their daughters and sons with all their might! and the baby moms only complain! they use the term dead beat dad loosely, and in ways that will break the self esteem of these men!now if they had the baby dad that i do, no child support, no money at all, doesn't see his son for months, and doesn't bother to call they would definitely be singing another tune! i do everything by myself, working 3 jobs, school with 2 degrees, and i toddler with no help monetary or otherwise!what happened to the days when relationships were golden! when the man got a girl pregnant and married her, or did whatever was necessary to provide for the family!

now women say " i have 4 kids and 6 baby days cause for some of them i don't know who the dad is" and for the men they just don't ever really know how to provide or the appropriate thing to do.

sometimes i accredit this to the flight or fright theory, because men who have been raised in single family homes have no real training on how to be a man and raise of family so they get scared and either do whatever they can for the family,(flight) or they run and in most cases they do the latter (fright)

but really tell me what happened when a strong black family was so appreciated and honored and keeping the family together took whatever was necessary even if it meant being unhappy for the parents.i just want there to be more wives, mothers, providers, strong women, educators, and back bones of the family not just a baby mom! then you get the my baby mom is crazy and my forget my baby dad!

• i ask the question: when did this trend happen, and how can we get it to end!!!!!
  

50 Books in a Year

hey!

so this is my first blog but i wanted to talk about what i have going on.so since i just graduated, i wanted to spend my time still learning and working on things that i thought would enhance my knowledge while its not required at school. so i decided between now (may 16th graduation) and the day i leave for law school (some time in late Aug) i will read 50 books! christian novels, plays, masterpieces, political pieces, self help books i mean anything i can get my hands on! i want to "blog" or discuss what books i chose, what i thought about them and ask for suggestions! so here we go....

1. Be Careful of The Company You Keep-Angie Daniels
i thought this book was great but it was so crazy to be a christian novel, i wanted a book that was more about real issues that we go through as children of god, i didn't want to hear about marital issues that didn't relate to me, or divorce i wanted to read about women who have sexual needs and how they solve the issues they have. this book had issues from homosexuality, cheating, teen pregnancy, etc. etc.
2. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man-Steve Harvey
this book was very insightful and helped with a lot of the issues i had about relationships. it have me a new perspective on standards and what i should expect and how i should be treated! amazing!
3. A Gathering of Old Men-Ernest Gaines
I actually lost this book but i was almost done and I'm getting it from the library so i will work on that soon. i really call this book number 3.5 (GNR)

4. Raising Kanye-Donda West
this book was very insightful for a single mother. i have always like kanye west and the way he talks and his public image in the music industry. reading about how he was raised and the things that made him who he is today, and how his mother had a great deal of weight in that was inspiring. Sadly Donda West has pasted now so that was the glumly shadow over the entire book for me.

i like blogging! :) there are more books to come soon!